What is resistance? In our terms, it is essentially a
conflict between the Middle and Basic Selves. Your Middle
Self thinks some form of action is a good idea while your
Basic Self disagrees.
How do you recognize it? Fatigue and
tiredness are the most telling symptoms. If you find
yourself feeling too tired to do something, when there is no
physical reason for it, suspect resistance.
you feel fatigued a lot, you should consult your doctor to
find out if there's an underlying physical condition. We
are not referring here to debilitating fatigue but to
occasional tiredness related to specific thoughts and
For example, you have an unpleasant job to do.
You put it off because every time you think of it, you feel
tired. Finally, you force yourself to marshal your energy
and do the task. Or maybe you just put it off forever.
Another example, your friend proposes a trip. You don't
really want to go but think you should. Every time you and
the friend discuss it, a feeling of lethargy comes over you.
The friend is enthusiastic. You are not but keep trying to
tell yourself (tell your Basic Self) it will be all right.
The Basic Self is not convinced.
What's the danger in this? Other than never getting the
task accomplished or taking the trip, there could be more
serious consequences. If you insist on proceeding with an
action your Basic Self is resisting, you could fall ill.
This is the Basic Self's last-ditch attempt to prevent you
The illness could be as mild as a cold but
could be more dire. So it's important to recognize
resistance when it occurs so you can deal with it in
communication between the Selves. In that way you can
resolve it or maybe come up with a compromise.
How do you do this? The first step is to be aware of what
your body is telling you. Note patterns. If every time you
think of something you might do in the future, you feel
overcome by tiredness, this is the Basic Self speaking.
Go into the Silence, a form of meditation in which you can
still consciously communicate with the Selves. Ask your
Basic Self if there's a problem. You might get an
enthusiastic Yes! Ask if it is with the trip, the job, or
whatever you suspect. Go into neutral and wait for an
answer. You are likely to get an "earful", not a conscious
voice but an inner voice that speaks to you.
After the meditation, contemplate your options. If the
action is important, write down all the reasons it must be
done, and then read them to the Basic Self. Ask for the
Basic Self's cooperation. If the action is something you
can successfully avoid, consider deferring to the Basic
Ask for your High Self's help in
reconciling the needs of the Middle and Basic Selves. Ask
that your actions be in alignment with your highest good and
the highest good of all. Thank your Basic Self and High
Prayer: May I proceed with life in a balanced way that
nurtures my Basic Self and satisfies my Middle Self's
needs. May there be cooperation between my Selves and the
Great Company of High Selves. May my actions serve my
highest good and the highest good of all.
Amama. Ua noa. The prayer is freed.
1: The Movement of Jealousy
2: Be Always Glad
3: The Three Selves
4. Finding Authenticity
5. Ho'oponopono For Two